Prepare For Your Mediation
- Double check to make sure you have all the paperwork you need. See the list of documents on the next page for examples of what you might need to bring with you.
- Make childcare arrangements (you never know how long it will take).
- Take time to think about the issues at hand and where you are with them. What are your priorities? What issues aren’t as important to you? How pressing is it to you to settle the issues as soon as possible (like at mediation) or, if the negotiations don’t go the way you hope, will it be okay to give the whole situation more time (e.g. no agreements today but hopefully at a later time)
The Day Of
- Eat breakfast. Pack a snack and a water bottle.
- Give yourself extra time in the morning to make sure you have everything you need (paperwork, address, phone charger, paper, pen, etc.).
- Take some time to think about your day ahead and how you want to be in it. You know you can’t control other people and all the outcomes but you can set intentions for yourself. How do you want to act/be/present?
- Picture yourself as being patient. Try to be a patient person. You’ll need it — especially when the other party is talking and you want to jump in with your side of the story. If you go into caucus (where you and the other party are in separate rooms) you’ll need patience here, too, as you wait for the mediator to come back.